Confronting My Husband
I decided to do the sensible thing first. I decided to ask him point blank. I waited until I could be calm about this because I didn’t want to come off as some panicked person who was over reaching and anxiety ridden, if I was wrong, I did not want to make him become defensive indefinitely.
I didn’t want to hurt our marriage if I was wrong. But, I did need answers. So, I very delicately asked him. First, I tried to broach it by asking if anything was bothering in because I noticed a distance that was emerging between us. Of course, he denied this. He said he was just under a whole lot of stress at work and that he had additional meetings that kept away and that he was preoccupied. He called me paranoid. He was angry and this made me feel crazy. I wanted to believe that I was over reaching and that my mind was just playing tricks on me. And, I did, at first.
But, things didn’t improve. He spent more and more time away and our sex life became more non existent. No matter how much I reached out to him, I came away empty. The little feeling and little voice just did not go away.
And, I also learned that statistically, only about seven percent of husbands ever admit to an affair even when they are having one - SEVEN PERCENT? So, it was clear that this guy was never going to fess up. I had to take matters into my own hands - and snoop. I wasn’t proud of this, but it was necessary. To read, exactly how I spied to confirm or deny my suspicions, click here or scroll down.
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