How I Caught My Cheater http://catch-the-cheating.com Tools To Help You Know If Your Spouse Is Cheating Once And For All Tue, 01 Dec 2009 01:25:28 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7.1 en hourly 1 How It Started - My Suspicions http://catch-the-cheating.com/how-it-started-my-suspicions/html http://catch-the-cheating.com/how-it-started-my-suspicions/html#comments Mon, 09 Mar 2009 17:22:34 +0000 http://catch-the-cheating.com/?p=3 There’s nothing worse than that feeling in your gut when you know that something is very wrong with your marriage.  At first, you can’t quite put your finger on it. But then, the actions begin to jive with the feelings.  He begins spending less time at home.  He has weird excuses that just don’t ring true.  You can feel the difference when he touches you.  You just know that something is “off.”

This was the case with me.  I had strong suspicions that something very wrong was going on.  Sure, he had a demanding job, but never before had it affected his interest toward me.  Sometimes, I would tell myself that I was just being paranoid and sometimes, I was absolutely sure.

But, I decided that I had to learn the truth because we had been talking about having children.  I didn’t want to move forward with this if I couldn’t trust him.  And, for my own mental health, I needed to know once and for all if the little voice screaming in the back of my head was right. So, I decided to confront him.  Click here or scroll down to see what happened next.

]]> http://catch-the-cheating.com/how-it-started-my-suspicions/html/feed Confronting My Husband http://catch-the-cheating.com/confronting-my-husband/html http://catch-the-cheating.com/confronting-my-husband/html#comments Sat, 07 Mar 2009 17:31:01 +0000 http://catch-the-cheating.com/?p=6 I decided to do the sensible thing first.  I decided to ask him point blank.  I waited until I could be calm about this because I didn’t want to come off as some panicked person who was over reaching and anxiety ridden, if I was wrong, I did not want to make him become defensive indefinitely. 

I didn’t want to hurt our marriage if I was wrong.  But, I did need answers. So, I very delicately asked him.  First, I tried to broach it by asking if anything was bothering in because I noticed a distance that was emerging between us.  Of course, he denied this.  He said he was just under a whole lot of stress at work and that he had additional meetings that kept away and that he was preoccupied.  He called me paranoid. He was angry and this made me feel crazy. I wanted to believe that I was over reaching and that my mind was just playing tricks on me.  And, I did, at first.

But, things didn’t improve.  He spent more and more time away and our sex life became more non existent. No matter how much I reached out to him, I came away empty.  The little feeling and little voice just did not go away.  

  And, I also learned that statistically, only about seven percent of husbands ever admit to an affair even when they are having one - SEVEN PERCENT?  So, it was clear that this guy was never going to fess up.  I had to take matters into my own hands - and snoop.  I wasn’t proud of this, but it was necessary. To read, exactly how I spied to confirm or deny my suspicions, click here or scroll down.

]]> http://catch-the-cheating.com/confronting-my-husband/html/feed Spying On My Own - What Helped Me Catch Him http://catch-the-cheating.com/spying-on-my-own-what-helped-me-catch-him/html http://catch-the-cheating.com/spying-on-my-own-what-helped-me-catch-him/html#comments Thu, 05 Mar 2009 17:54:35 +0000 http://catch-the-cheating.com/?p=9 So in order to determine if I was right or wrong, I decided to take matters in my own hands. The first place that I chose to look was my husband’s email on our computer.  Now, I knew the email that he used for work and friends and of course, I checked that, but no dice. I suspected that he opened another account just for the other person, but I couldn’t access it or find it. I went to our computer’s Internet history, but it had been deleted.  So, I was at a dead end there - or so I thought.

But, then I found something that helped me to retrieve emails, passwords, and internet history - and bingo - I found a whole seperate internet world that he’d been using.

There were two systems, really. The first is called How To Catch A Cheating Spouse by Sarah Paul. 

It helped me to spy on him from the computer, on his cell phone, in an airplane or on a business trip.   It teaches you how to retrieve text messages and emails, how to get DNA evidence of an affair, and how to cover your tracks if you are wrong. 

And, she (Sarah) offers a FREE newsletter that gives you the common signs, signals, and mistakes that cheating spouses give up.  Once you visit her web page, you can scroll down to the end and sign up for her free newsletter by clicking here. This is a good (and free) place to start.

Another really good resource if you have some cell phone numbers that you’re too scared to call but really need to know who this person is - Reverse Phone Lookup.  Cell phone numbers aren’t public.  Although you can get info about them (where they are located) you can’t get the actual name through public records.  But, you can with this system.  You can plug in the phone number to see if it’s available here.  I had to use this because my husband’s cell phone had a lot of unfamiliar numbers.  I was pretty sure that most of them (but not all) were for business. I did not want to go calling clients if I was wrong.

The final resource that I found is Cheat Sweeper. This one is really geared toward folks that want to use verbal methods rather than technology to catch the cheating. In essence, the idea is to trick or talk him into confessing himself and having remorse. This guy offers a free newsletter too.  You can check it out here.  You can read about my final results by clicking here or scrolling down. (affiliate disclosure)

]]> http://catch-the-cheating.com/spying-on-my-own-what-helped-me-catch-him/html/feed The Results http://catch-the-cheating.com/the-results/html http://catch-the-cheating.com/the-results/html#comments Wed, 04 Mar 2009 19:15:39 +0000 http://catch-the-cheating.com/?p=13 These resources gave me emails, text messages and DNA evidence that proved without a doubt that I was absolutely right.  I had pages and pages of emails and texts that he really couldn’t deny.  In the end, he had to fess up.  He was completely busted and he knew it.

Am I glad I know? Yes, it’s painful, but it’s helpful to know that I wasn’t just making this up in my own head.  It validates my intuition.  I have no idea if I am going to try to save this marriage or not, but I do know that he can no longer lie to me again.  I know how to catch him now and I’ll never be caught off guard again. Please note that I can’t guarantee any outcome or how your situation will end up.  By no means am I an expert on all of this and I certainly can not claim that my results are typical or indicative of how anyone’s situation will end up.

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